I Would not that you be ignorant of the ways of the enemy

♥♪LOVE LIFTED ME ♥♪

the enemy likes us to be mad at each other

 so, his demons say things in peoples' thoughts  trying to get them mad at each other
  like...me
 once I had a roommate, I love her alot. We were good friends:  Becky
 I used to always tell everybody
  "o, you're crazy!"  whenever they said something funny
 it was just a saying
  I meant...oh, that's SO funny!
  but...the devil had me say it to her alot
  one day
  she asked me to sit down
 and talk with her
  and she said, I know you don't mean anything by that
  but it hurts me everytime you say it
 a few years ago, her bf and her dad had drugged her  and put her in an insane assylum
  the doctors kept giving her drugs everyday
 and ...she finally got out because she would hide the pills they gave her under her tongue
  and then throw them away
  she told me she used to read her BIBLE all the time in there
  and GOD told her what to do
  so she could get out


  so

 I was ....more than I can tell you
  I said,"I am so sorry!  and I will NEVER say that to you again."  (I actually have never said it to anybody again)
  ....so, we never know....what other people are thinking about what we are saying
  and....they don't know what we are thinking either
 that's why we have to tell them

for example:

If you think a friend is saying something & meaning something that hurts your feelings, ASK THEM RIGHT OUT!

say: Are you meaning to say:  bla bla bla? and that you think that bla bla bla I am 'bad'?

then they will CLARIFY what they were thinking when they said X thing. ..and  9 times out of 10 they will say Definitely NOT!  How could you think I meant THAT?
 so they can say....NO WAY! I never said THAT....  or... That's NOT what I meant

I sure hope this helps somebody.

ding dong devil used to always get me into alot of messes with people I loved before I started doing this : repeating questionable comments back to them & asking if that is what they were thinking/saying-

Now, I have grown to trust their love for me over what negative thoughts come into my head

~Be Blessed, Beloved!